Bunking Down

The transition has started...

We built this house for three children, our bedroom and three upstairs. It wasn't until after we had Jack that we discussed the possibility of more than three children. One of the only hesitations I've had about the adoption - and hesitation is the wrong word, it's more of a frustration of the reality that is - is that Anna's addition will stretch the physical boundaries of our home. I always felt that part of our job as parents supporting children is to provide them with their own space and room that is just theirs. Three bedrooms, three kids, simple math. SO, what happens when a fourth child comes into the family? It's really not a big deal, I don't know why it bothers me. The easy answer is that the boys share Jack's big room. When we bring Anna home she will likely have sleeping issues - at the very least, she'll suffer from jetlag for a couple weeks to a month. It's not fair to Paxten for them to share a room during that time. So the boys will share, and initially PJ and Anna will have thier own rooms. Maybe down the road we'll have a boys' room, a girls' room and a spare room - that seems the most fair...

SO, tonight the boys decided they wanted to share a room. They were sooo excited - and still are at 20 minutes to midnight as they chat away up there. Jack announced "Mommy, I've ALWAYS wanted to share my room, always always always". It helps me that they're excited and want to do this, I don't feel as much as if I'm taking something away from them. I keep telling myself that when they're old enough to care, they'll be old enough for one of them to move down to the basement room.

Why do I stress about such little things?

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