I spent much of yesterday emailing back and forth with one of the ladies at our agency. Luckily for me she was very appreciative of my position and concerns and addressed my fears honestly, productively and with sensitivity.
We talked about switching to the "special needs" route of adoption. To do so, we'd pull our file from the CCAA and re-apply, starting by updating our homestudy, reapplying to the NS gov't, and resubmitting to the CCAA. We'd likely get a referral of a child in a year or so. It sounds great, but chances are slim that we'd get our application back to the CCAA before the May 1st initiation of their new rules - and we are not eligible by their new rules, so this is not an option.
So we wait. And hope and pray. Seems mean and spiteful to hope/pray that babies continue to be abandoned just so we can have one... I'd like to think I'd be happy if they closed thier doors tomorrow b/c all the babies were cared for, but I think I'm a little too honest and a little too human for that.
Although the cover-your-butt line "there are no guarantees" in IA was repeated several times, it seems most people in the adoption community are confident that the adoption WILL happen, it's only a matter of time. I feel a little better about it now, I guess... I've got to find a place where I'm patient of the wait, secure in the end result but flexible for changes. If I don't find that frame of mind, I'm going to drive myself crazy.
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